How to Remember Your Loved One
When a loved one dies, their death anniversary becomes this sort of holiday – a time to celebrate their life from what they once had, and what you shared with them. However, how do you grieve, yet heal? Can you even remember your loved one without becoming too overwhelmed with emotions, or should you try to ignore or even forget the day they died?
What if you are the friend of someone whose spouse, child or parent has died. How would you comfort them on the anniversary of their loved one’s death? Should you say or do anything? It can be a tricky, but of course it doesn’t have to be awkward.
Obviously, we should be careful using the term “Celebrate” maybe commemorate, honour, remember or observe would be best suited, but the idea is just the same. The anniversary of the loved one’s death is a good way to acknowledge their loss.
The form of grief will change over time, and yes, some people grief differently than others – some may cry, some may not. Some people would rather move on quickly, while others may take time to heal that empty place that’s always there.
The person who died was real. They actually lived, and of course they deserve to be remembered, cherished, and honoured. No matter if they had faults, which everyone has of their own, the loved one’s life impacted many people in many ways, and that’s very important to acknowledge this.
No matter however you do it, large or small (keeping with current Government guidelines), and whatever you choose to do, you should always celebrate the death anniversary.
When celebrating a death Anniversary
It’s going to be a tough day. It’s been a year; it feels like just a day or two. The grief may have subdued a little, but especially on the “day of” you will probably feel raw. Plan some time to mourn, contemplate, pray, journal, walk, or just bury yourself in the couch. Take the day off from work. Don’t plan any big activities, and feel free to skip some daily chores. Set aside time to remember.